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PERSONAL BLOG POST - SELF LOVE - THE GREATEST GIFT

My latest blog post is a personal one, I’ve filmed it as well for my new YouTube channel (launching soon). A writer, knows only to write because words are easier put to paper than said....so if you like this post and can relate to it, give it a thumbs up and share it. 

I was never the popular girl at school. I was always the odd one out, I was bullied a lot. Probably because I didn’t fit the box that so many are put into, and also because I grew up in the country, I grew up differently. I still call my elders aunty, uncle, oom and tannie; I treat everyone I meet with kindness and an open heart, and those country values are all still instilled in me; they make me who I am. My experience at school made me retreat. I didn’t have boyfriends, I had no self confidence, didn’t wear makeup a lot, didn’t go out partying; a lot of family members referred to me as - nerd.

One who never did, was my grandpa. He and I, were best friends. We just got each other. He moulded me into the writer I am today, and he always told me, often when I cried on his shoulder about bullies, “my cookela, you’ll see one day, you’re going to make it, I have faith in you”. When my very first article was published, he bought many copies, reread it over and over again and put one on his wall, where he could see it. 

I’ve always said I was a late bloomer. Only after I started my own business and entered the entertainment and beauty industries did I really start to flourish and thrive. I finally found my place in the world. I started to feel more confident, I made an amazing group of friends, and I felt accepted in a world where being ordinary wasn’t an option. But being extraordinary, being different - it was celebrated. I fell in love with makeup in a way that I never thought I would; the science behind it, things that some people wouldn’t even think of when actually buying a lipstick. I fell in love with myself again. I also fell in love with aesthetics, treatments to my skin that keep it looking healthy and that makes ME happy. It’s not for everyone, and that’s okay. I’ve always said that you need to be and feel like the best “you” possible, so if you can do it, do it! This industry has given me amazing opportunity to meet and interview people I could only dream of, and first impressions count, so I always want to make it a great one. 

I got healthy and fit, and strong. I’m the fittest and slimmest I’ve ever been. Some people don’t enjoy wearing makeup every day, and that’s totally okay, but I do. I love it. Even if it’s just a tinted moisturizer and a mascara. I knew that when I entered the social media aspect of my business that there would be those who would make fun of and mock the selfies and pictures. When you’re in this industry you better have a thick skin.

You see, I’ve come to realize in the last few weeks that when people are so quick to make fun of you, it’s really their own insecurities at play, not yours. Its a tough pill to swallow that most people would rather see someone fail than to see them succeed, but in my case this is true. When I lost all the weight, took pride in how I presented myself on a daily basis and became very ambitious, the haters..or trolls as we call them in social media, they came out to play. 

I am unapologetically authentic. I’m comfortable in my body, in my skin, in my face. That’s who I am. We can’t change what people say about us, but we can change how we react to it. And sometimes, not reacting to it is the best way of all. We can’t allow other people to change who we are; we can’t give them the power to belittle us and make us feel small. So I will continue to be brave, I will continue to be ambitious in the pursuit of all my goals; most of all, I will continue to walk with confidence, not arrogance. And I will lift others up, even when they choose to put me down. I will drown out the noise and be better because I know better. 

So yes, I’ve changed. For the better. I’ve become the woman I was always meant to be, I fought like hell to become her - selfies, contoured cheekbones and all. And I wouldn’t change a thing because at my core I still treat everyone with dignity, respect and kindness. Love who you are. Be who you are. Find the person who loves the you that you love. Know that you are enough, and if some people make you feel that you aren’t, then those are not your people! 

Love yourself, be kind to yourself, and remember that out of all the billions of people on this earth, there’s only one of you, that not only makes you special, it makes you different, and being different is pretty spectacular!!



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